I find it bizarre that we’re given specific time-limits for different milestones. The time to get yourself a car, to buy the house, to have the kids, etc. I think we’re all so accustomed to the way we felt as kids and teenagers- when everyone did the same things at roughly the same time and there was always the comfort of knowing that you’re ‘where you should be’. As a young adult, that lack of guidance coupled with a plethora of options can be unnerving. The feeling that you’re not young, but also not old, the memes reminding you that the nineties are further and further away.
And somehow time seems to be passing by faster- is it me or does Christmas seem to pop round every ~7 months?
This is the time where some of our peers are getting married, some are still living at home, others have decided to travel to Bali to ‘find themselves’. And you, wherever you are may be feeling like you’re falling behind or maybe you’re starting to feel like you at your big, big age, should really have your act together already.
I can’t lie, sometimes I do.
It doesn’t help that there is constant access to other people, so you always know what everyone is doing, how they’re winning and importantly, serve as a reminder of how you may feel that you’re losing
But in reality, life isn’t a race- obviously; we’re all on different trajectories. While we may feel the need to keep up with others, we’re really all just in different lanes, at a pace that makes sense for us.
These days, I’m putting more energy into enjoying every phase of life, while also making efforts to move towards were I feel I want to be, because everything changes so quickly. before you know it, you’ll be reminiscing about a season in your life that has long passed. A season that you couldn’t even enjoy because you were anticipating the next thing.